We actually went a year without talking and have only started talking again for the last few months, but I've been getting the feeling that I should just maybe cut her out of my life.

At the same time though, I feel like I wouldn't be able to do that without feeling incredibly guilty. She doesn't have many people that she can actually talk to and I'm kind of one of the only people she can vent to.

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Soulchild: u thnk evry thng stupid.
DaCrum: Warbear, why did you suddenly become pretty cool? Stop it.

Hm, well, to be honest, you need to do what's best for you. You're the one who is going to be completely miserable. I'm sure she'd be able to find other people to talk to if something happens in her life.

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Tuor: Stuff is our resident, hot mess, alcoholic.
Senel: Stuff is the patron saint of getting shitfaced. You replaced your organs with an engine that runs solely on alcohol.
RIP Lucky. I love you so much.

Ya, I've been in this spot, and I highly recommend severing ties with her. That's the only thing that made it possible for me to move on from the ex I was having this issue with.

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I'm still sort of going through this myself with my current... I still really don't know what to call her right now. An ex with benefits, my girlfriend, some third thing. And I got the same advice as you have, WB. But I've been putting off having a major talk since I don't want to just cut her off without saying something, but I don't want to chance hurting her feelings because she does stupid shit when she's down. So pretty much in the same boat as you are.

Also, going back to Stuff's dad being somewhat of an ass kisser. What you've brought up before about him, he seems like the person who wouldn't ease into things like asking for rent if you could pay for it. He'd be straight up or you'd hear your mother ask about it instead. Like you mentioned, he could be afraid you'll become independent and move out since you're his little girl and all. but this is just a guess. Don't know your pops too well from one or two mentionings.

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"Cogito, ergo vos es eggo." A.K.A. "I think, therefore you are a waffle."

Sucks when someone holds themselves emotionally hostage

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I've dealt with something similar to this, though not nearly to that degree. We talked but we never really 'talked'. Was more like a long series of small-talk in an elevator. Not going anywhere but feeling guilty if I tried to leave.

Stuff is right here though, it'll be tough but you gotta split. You're gonna become even more emotionally wrecked if you keep letting you and her be shackled to each other. Maybe she wants out but doesn't know how to do it. Lots of people don't because it will hurt the other.
It's... Well, it's wrong.

I can understand a week of not talking to someone, at most a month, but a whole year? I'd have forgotten her existence at that point.

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"But when one of it's baby chicks is in trouble, Momma comes a run'nin' and a squawkin and a run'nin''." -General Treistar

Well folks. All I can say is I appreciate your existences.

Despite the sadness of personal conflict and etc, this thread is just OOZING with good vibes and feels from the responses to said problems.

Reminds me of being in a hot tub. Its so veeeeery relaxing and comforting to see examples of people caring or at the very least see them convincingly act like they care.

I may not respond or relate to most of the problems voiced on here but I feel for you. With a mindset similar to a child seeing their pet caterpillar grow into a butterfly. It oozes of both progress and beauty.

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"Hmm, the more you look into it the more flaws you see, just as it is with everything."

Could you use a better word than oozing? It is an unpleasant word

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I'm still the Queen of Dicks

that boo makes me so happy.

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Grey: if someone told me i looked like a magic the gathering player i would rip off their nipples

i dont know how to feel right now...

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"Small muscles, big brain, the heart of a lion."
—Anthony DiNozzo on Timothy McGee

Alive is preferable.

Just explain how you are feeling and what's going through your mind at the moment.

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Stufflikehearts - He is a Sith Lord. I love Blood Lord :3
Jeffffey - Blood, you look at the information someone says, look over what really happened, and reply in a way that makes them realize what they were really thinking.
Mythrrinthael - Blood Lord, our local expert in interpretation of The Grim Tales from Down Below!
Fievel - Numerous campaigns and conquests, countless bodies decaying after the abandonment of victorious battlefields. Such is the life of Blood Lord.
Dusk_Imp - Blood Lord is like a celebrity here. Everything he does is pure awesome. ALL HAIL BLOOD LORD
Doctress Who - Why couldn't there be a Blood Lord in every forum? It would make life so much easier.
Snafu's Mercypostle.

Bit of a late reply, but on those emotionally draining people, ask what you get from them. If you aren't satisfied with what you're getting related to what you're giving them, either be honest about that with them, see if that can change, or end the relationship.

Remember if that you feel you owe them something, then why shouldn't they owe you as well? Why does it only apply to you? The only people who deserve that sort of faithfulness are the people who'll be thinking the exact same way as you, not the people who are more than willing to leech off the goodwill and kindness of others.

So, uh.

I've been regressing, in my hermit tendencies. After breaking up with the woman that I was going out with for a while, I've kinda been staying inside, and I'm starting to look like what I used to.

I don't. Want to go back to it. It's bad, but it seems that whenever I go out, without any anxiety, my body shakes regardless.

It's weird. My mind is fine, I'm not really afraid anymore, but my body seems to feel differently.

Guys, I think DaCrum killed himself.

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Tuor: Stuff is our resident, hot mess, alcoholic.
Senel: Stuff is the patron saint of getting shitfaced. You replaced your organs with an engine that runs solely on alcohol.
RIP Lucky. I love you so much.

Wait, what?

It's all over his Facebook. People writing posts and saying RIP.

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Tuor: Stuff is our resident, hot mess, alcoholic.
Senel: Stuff is the patron saint of getting shitfaced. You replaced your organs with an engine that runs solely on alcohol.
RIP Lucky. I love you so much.

I'm seeing all these messages on facebook and my hands are sweating too bad...I was hoping someoen could say it was all a joke

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i can't believe this is true, he and i were so alike
ai,.

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dacrum killed himself

he actually did it

christ

but why

the first thing that popped up for me was a picture, and I thought it was a joke. then I clicked his page

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Tuor: Stuff is our resident, hot mess, alcoholic.
Senel: Stuff is the patron saint of getting shitfaced. You replaced your organs with an engine that runs solely on alcohol.
RIP Lucky. I love you so much.

but he told me life was beautiful

that there was so much to live for

why

it doesn't matter why

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God fucking dammit Ethan

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Stufflikehearts - He is a Sith Lord. I love Blood Lord :3
Jeffffey - Blood, you look at the information someone says, look over what really happened, and reply in a way that makes them realize what they were really thinking.
Mythrrinthael - Blood Lord, our local expert in interpretation of The Grim Tales from Down Below!
Fievel - Numerous campaigns and conquests, countless bodies decaying after the abandonment of victorious battlefields. Such is the life of Blood Lord.
Dusk_Imp - Blood Lord is like a celebrity here. Everything he does is pure awesome. ALL HAIL BLOOD LORD
Doctress Who - Why couldn't there be a Blood Lord in every forum? It would make life so much easier.
Snafu's Mercypostle.

Hey, BL, you don't know if there's a chance that game we played is somehow archived somewhere?

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Tuor: Stuff is our resident, hot mess, alcoholic.
Senel: Stuff is the patron saint of getting shitfaced. You replaced your organs with an engine that runs solely on alcohol.
RIP Lucky. I love you so much.