Do it when you feel comfortable God knows I'll never unload my bags here.

@ Stuff: Agreed. But I would at least try to work it out with him. Maybe something is going on with him that he is struggling with and those that are around him and that he cares about are feeling his frustration. Perhaps if a civil conversation is still open then that would be a good idea. If not then maybe you and your Mom leaving will open his eyes that he needs to change and do better. If that happens, let him try to be better and have patience.

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Snafu's Mercypostle.

See, every time me and my Mom. Or even if we try by ourselves, he takes it as we're attacking him and that we are in the wrong. Nothing is wrong with him. It's everyone else. So it always ends up with him yelling at us, which of course, because I don't take bullshit...me yelling back.

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RIP Lucky. I love you so much.

Then just leave if he isn't willing to talk it out in a civilized manner. He's failing at his job as a father and husband right now.

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Jeffffey - Blood, you look at the information someone says, look over what really happened, and reply in a way that makes them realize what they were really thinking.
Mythrrinthael - Blood Lord, our local expert in interpretation of The Grim Tales from Down Below!
Fievel - Numerous campaigns and conquests, countless bodies decaying after the abandonment of victorious battlefields. Such is the life of Blood Lord.
Dusk_Imp - Blood Lord is like a celebrity here. Everything he does is pure awesome. ALL HAIL BLOOD LORD
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Snafu's Mercypostle.

Man, my depression was ridiculously bipolar today. I had at least 4 times where I had gone from a really happy mood to a total depression. Right now? I'm on an upbeat mood! I'll probably fall asleep upbeat which is nice! I honestly had a good day, good talks with one of my closest friend. He's determined to try and ensure that more people talk to me, since my huge problem with the depression is the lack of support from my peers.


Stuff, I'm sorry. I really wasn't thinking about what I was saying, and I got defensive really quickly. Sometimes my propensity to give people chances is dumb, and inconsiderate. So yeah. Sorry. :/

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Thread.

I only made one, the recovery thread.

No there were more.

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Dude I seriously have no idea what you're talking about.

I remember only the recovery thread.

I recall more than one.

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Senel: Stuff is the patron saint of getting shitfaced. You replaced your organs with an engine that runs solely on alcohol.
RIP Lucky. I love you so much.

I mean, I've made more than one thread, obviously, but when it came to issues, the recovery thread was my go to.

No it wasn't. You made atleast two other threads.

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Whatever, man. I don't remember.

Maybe later, I'll take a look.

So, bringing this over from the Valhallentines Day thread:

I want to think my now not ex-girlfriend has the same feelings back for me from before since I was really one of the only guys that listened and has given her actual useful advice to her and are the closest guy she knows. Seriously, all the other boyfriends she's had were either lying to her or were totally self centered or idiots.

It's always frustrated me that she'll often pick out these guys over me at times... Last time we broke up it was about not having enough time to spend with her, and since then it's just one liar/dick/idiot after another.

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I know man. I know.

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While there might have been something you or I might have glossed over, I'd say that if she breaks up again, you're better off trying not to get back even if she asks.

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-stufflikehearts-

Don't you think you'd be happier with a girl that actually appreciated the things you do? You don't have a responsibility to take care of her. She's making her own decisions. Don't let a fixation get in the way of your own happiness, because you aren't responsible for hers. If of her own decision she comes back to you, great, maybe she's changed, but based on what you've said you should just drop your pursual of her, your energy might be better spent finding a girl who'd actually appreciate you.

Also, are you still friends with her, giving advice still and such things? Maybe you should stop. She won't know what she's got until you're gone.

Well yeah. It was pretty hard on me to try and persue her, so I did drop trying to for the longest time. But then she pops up again all saying she missed me so much and calling me and texting me and facebooking and dropping by my place all at the same time it feels like she wants me back even though I never thought we would be together again. That's what's so upsetting about it. She just came back with so much energy and lust it was out of left field.

Also, I have indeed. For 8 years I've been there for her giving her advice whenever she asked and helped her through rough patches whenever I was available even when we weren't together. I'd hate myself to just "stop". And it's not overall draining to talk to her about her problems. It's what I always do for everyone around me. It's natural for me to try and be helpful to those that need an ear.

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"Cogito, ergo vos es eggo." A.K.A. "I think, therefore you are a waffle."

Did she just break up with a boyfriend or something?

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He broke up with her.

First time that's happened actually. She's always the one to break it off.

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"Cogito, ergo vos es eggo." A.K.A. "I think, therefore you are a waffle."

That's what I suspected. So she coming back to you now because she knows she can

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Bad news bears man, abort abort!

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Dude, you are the eternal back up option, that's all you will likely be to her. Don't buy her shit about wanting to be with you, be friends if you want but go find someone else to date.

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It's not even about it being draining, it's about the opportunity cost. She is basically keeping you off the market while not actually being with you. As Whatis said, you're basically the back up option. No one should relegate themselves to that. If she's open to being your girlfriend then you can do it again, but you need to have a serious talk about your relationship and how she can't keep doing this to you. Or if you don't want to have that talk, then you just need to end all relations with her if she breaks it off again. She seems like she's just using you as a rebound until she finds another guy.


You might hate yourself to just "stop" but you'll also hate yourself when you're 30 and wondering why you're alone and why you wasted so much time on a person that didn't give back nowhere near as much you gave her.

This is an issue that's gotten worse for me over the years. Everything is boring. There's no emotion to be felt in anything. There's no point to work, or to school - money has never mattered to me. I'm just going through the motions of life, but as the responsibilities start to pile up as a child must grow away from their parents, I find myself not caring for these responsibilities. The benefits that come with them mean nothing. This is not to sound spoiled, that I want to be taken care of forever or anything like that. I would not demand that from anyone, and I paid for this college semester myself outright with money saved that I never spent a dime of besides on necessary costs (e.g. gas). I have tried many interests over the years and nothing has ever sparked a passion. I have had a wide variety of friends, introverts, extroverts and the whole range of friendship, and it's never done anything for me, or changed me, as people would say for a more reserved person like myself to "get out of their shell". I tested that, and it did nothing for me. People have always had nothing but good things to say about me (so far as I've heard, of course), and I was always deemed a great friend. Recreational drugs might be good for me, but the risk of addiction is too great, because if they do offer me a fantastical release, then that might be enough of a reason to completely stop caring about everything else.

It is difficult to explain this without coming off the wrong way. I've never really met another person like me, and that's not a good thing. It is not depression. Life just offers nothing. And neither does death. Both are equally pointless. So suicide's not an option, since one day I could change and then life would be better, or if I was really driven to the point of suicide, abandoning my life as is would be more appealing.

There is a bit of partial identification that I have with Patrick Bateman as the following quote reads:
“...there is an idea of a Patrick Bateman, some kind of abstraction, but there is no real me, only an entity, something illusory, and though I can hide my cold gaze and you can shake my hand and feel flesh gripping yours and maybe you can even sense our lifestyles are probably comparable: I simply am not there.”

Has anyone felt like this or perhaps known someone like that? I've felt this way mostly my whole life, but the detachment just keeps growing greater, and I've never found a way to ground myself.

Have you ever sought any kind of professional advice about this?

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