Do not think of what you're doing.

Focus on your thoughts.

Sort of withdraw into your brain and concentrate there. The meditation will then have its effect.

Leave the physical world behind, and delve into your inner reality.

This will allow you to attain peace.

so yea, my girlfriend has always been emotional, she always talked about her deppression and how she was gonna off herself at some point in time. When I first met her, her ex was driving her over the edge.recently she went to a mental hospital for a few days after trying to drink germ x, when she came back she was happy, but now shes gone back to burning and cutting herself. If i tell her parents shed never trust me again, if i leave it this way she'll slowly get worse again, She constantly says im the only pick up she has,but even that is slowly wearing off and I'm just 15, does anyone have experience with this stuff?

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Unfortunately you may need to sacrifice your relationship with her to get her the help she needs. I assume she's just about the same age as you, which means she's still forming as a person and she can more easily be helped, which she desperately needs.

It is unfortunate in these situations that the right thing means doing what feels bad and what gets hate from who you are helping, but the best one can hope for is that she's thankful if and when she gets better, otherwise it's a situation that's impossible to resolve cleanly. She clearly needs more serious intervention in her life, especially if prior attempts have failed and she's already back to bad habits. She doesn't need an enabler. Especially if you, as you say, are slowly less and less able to be her pick-up. The only option left is to explain to her parents the gravity of the situation and hope they do something with that.

There are no perfect solutions here besides doing the best you can to help, and to hope she summons the strength to drag herself back to emotional well-being, because no matter how much you or anyone else tries to help, ultimately it does rest on her to pass the finish line, so do what you can to open the door for her and hope she has the will to step through it.

Even though it may seem like the "bad guy" thing to do you have to either encourage her to seek help, or ya, tell her parents, or someone. I'm surprised she is not already in some kind of therapy after attempting once.

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Oh jolly, Oh joy, Oh happy day, my girlfriend left me AGAIN for the second time, the most wonderfully splendiferous part of my nutricious breakfast is, she diidnt leave me because of the fact i told her she needed to get help, or because i went to her parents, she left because her ex boyfriend who has repeatedly made her miserable, came back, and that girl left me for him yet again, and i would say it hurts, but i saw it coming, and right now i am not sad, just very very pissed off

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This kind of a blessing in disguise.

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Does she have a bipolar disorder by chance?

her mother has it, then again her mother was on crack, I'm not entirely sure but if i had to guess id say yes

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Bipolar disorder does tend to run in families.

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Fuck her.

Sarah has done that several times.

So fuck her. Leave her behind. She's a crazy bitch. At one point, dude, you have to realize: caring for others is a good thing. But when it gets to the point that it's hurting you, than you cut off all ties.

If somebody's lack of emotional stability is affecting yours and they are unwilling to fix it, then cut your losses.

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FUCK THAT BITCH

Louis, I do not believe I've said one word to on here before so I felt those should be my first. If she's leaving you for another guy regardless of her mental stability fuck her. When she comes back to you it will basically be her having her cake and eating it too. I see people use disabilities as a crutch too much and a relationship should not be one of them.

Take it from a guy whose ex tried to run him over three times in one night.

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"Senel I had forgotten how gorgeous your face is." - Doctress

It's painful, but you gotta cut your losses.

The one person that matters the most right now, to you, IS you.

Don't continue hurting yourself like this.

He doesn't need to hate her. She's clearly mentally unstable and really you can't even consider her as responsible for her actions to a certain extent at this point.

He still needs to cut her loose, that needs to be done, but I don't agree with hating her for it as she's clearly not right in the head at the moment. If she ever gets better, I'm sure she will deeply regret how she treated Louis.

Just don't let her drag you down with you Louis. You're trying to bring her up, not go down to the emotional muck with her. You tried. But the sad fact of life is sometimes you can't save everyone and you have to leave it to chance. You just have to have hope now that she'll get better. Maybe you finally cutting her off will be the wake up call she needs. She'll finally be forced to be without her crutch, and maybe she'll get better that way.

I can't believe I swore never to post in here.

Okay so, a few of you won't be surprised in the least, but I'm having issues with a girl.

I'm going to skip the hokey 'this is why i like her' bullshit and get right down to it. I like her a lot but she is confused about feelings and relationships and such.

To be more specific, there is a sixteen year-old shithead drop-out drug addict in the picture (i know) and apparently he's super cool and more interesting and tempting than I am. (yayyyyy)

She's explained to me that there really isn't anything between them, but she won't explain to me why there's slight feelings (and I don't expect her to).

We recently had a talk about how I think all of this is bullshit and how much I like her and how I'm just going to back off and just be friends with her, but it bugs the hell out of me.

So how should I move from here? Stay the course or actually pursue her?

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Soulchild: u thnk evry thng stupid.
DaCrum: Warbear, why did you suddenly become pretty cool? Stop it.

Actually pursue her, don't let some punk face 16 year old jackass steal your girl

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Dude, if she can't make a decision between you and some 16 year old druggie that doesn't sound good.

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Ding ding ding!

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Soulchild: u thnk evry thng stupid.
DaCrum: Warbear, why did you suddenly become pretty cool? Stop it.

Girls have that stupid innate temptation towards guys they think they can fix or tame or whatever. Whatis already said it. If she thinks some drug addict is competition she probably isn't worth your time.

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"Senel I had forgotten how gorgeous your face is." - Doctress

Hrm.

Well.

That's a bit unnerving, considering I was a form of "16 year old druggie" who wasn't necessarily 16. I wonder if my relationship died because I got better.

Anyway. Warbear. She's not worth it. If she wants some dude who has a shitload of problems, instead of you, than she doesn't know what she's got. Granted, her "feelings" for this other guy could be more motherly than anything. And this guy might be seriously fucked up.

But. You aren't. That's why you should leave it behind you and pursue someone who's knows when they got lucky. Don't worry, Warby. The world is huge, and there are way more girls worth your time. The only ones that are ever worth dating are almost always able to reciprocate that time to you, too.

What I'm trying to say, in a rambling manner, is to just leave this girl in the dust. Find someone who's good enough for you, man.

Well I do have a lot of i- Oh you're talking about him.

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Soulchild: u thnk evry thng stupid.
DaCrum: Warbear, why did you suddenly become pretty cool? Stop it.

More seriously though, I can't say that I'm much more desirable. I mean, I'm a high school drop-out as well. The only difference is is that I have tons of work experience, an apartment, and massive anxiety issues (which I'm going to therapy for on Wednesday.) I've also concurred that I have a drinking problem, but I'm working on that.

I'm not saying that I'm less desirable than a teenage drug-addict, but I am saying that I can see why she'd pick him over me.

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Soulchild: u thnk evry thng stupid.
DaCrum: Warbear, why did you suddenly become pretty cool? Stop it.

You took my comment as an insult, shit.

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Warbear.

You are who you are. If there are things that you dislike about yourself, than fix them. But compare one person's flaws to another will not work, as it simply invalidates one or the other. Suffering is equal in the way that it is sufferig all the same.

Sounds like you're about to go through the same shit I did.

You know the mistakes I made, so don't repeat them. Oh, and I'm always free to talk through PMs. You know I have experience with these sorts of things.

I don't know to what degree you have a drinking problem, but talk to a doc about some withdrawal meds. Don't want to get the D.T.s like I did.

Meditation is an amazing hobby for relieving anxiety. Do some research on your own about it, as I've posted some information.

Weed helps a lot. Always. Obvious reasons.

Finally, you can't rely on any drug or hobby at all, despite the aforementioned suggestions. They can help, and you can use them as something to help you along, but your true crutch must be your own willpower.

Humankind is capable of great things, but they can only be achieved through sheer force of will, something everyone is capable of.