I'm waiting for people to realize/remember something about my sister.

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I remember you had mentioned something about your sister but it's foggy. Was it self-harm related?

Ding ding!

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It could just be a combination of both things, a problem combined with normal teenage irritability. This is why it is difficult to discern issues with teenagers. They are already liable to mood swings so it makes it difficult to determine if there is an actual problem or not. However, given her history, you'd probably be on the safe side to try to learn what the problem is. Maybe she's purposefully trying to drive everyone away out of low self-esteem, rationalizing to herself that they're better off without her. Maybe she's having a hard time at school. Maybe it's just one of those things. Maybe it's any combination thereof.

But trying to pry into a person to learn what you need to know is often close to impossible, especially with a teenager. Maybe you could just say, hey sis, you've been acting different lately, is something up? She'll probably say she's fine or whatever. Then you just let her know you're there if anything's up she wants to talk about. If it's one of those phases she'll get along fine, but if there is a problem, she might tell you. But even as a brother this information may be difficult to get. She may only share such things with her friends. If she doesn't open up, and if the circumstances apply, try to get in contact with any of her friends to see if anything has changed in her life that she isn't telling you about.

Or you can try to ascertain if she's self-harming more surreptiously. Is there a pool or jacuzzi nearby you guys can use? Obviously it's Canada and approaching winter, but maybe someone can heat something up. If she demonstrates hostility to this idea, it may be because she doesn't want to dress down which would reveal more marks of self-harm. Or any other way you can get her to dress down in a socially acceptable way.

You can also suggest to your mom that she should make her go to a physical. She might only be able to trust a doctor who has no bearing on her life with information about herself. She might not feel safe opening up to friends, family etc., basically anyone involved in her life. If she goes in for a physical, she might be willing to share something pertinent to the doctor about her physical/mental health status. So then the doctor might be able to convince her to tell the family and get help, or she might be able to get treatment without having to open up to the family and be embarrassed, either way she gets help.

Well, she already wound up at the hospital a few months ago, so I already know about the self harming, and I know that it's quite extensive on her arms for sure. During the whole summer she wore hoodies.

I don't really know what else to comment on. We're not particularly close, so I'd feel like it would be really obvious what I was trying to do if I suddenly started talking to her. I don't know if she knows, that I know, she self-harms.

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late night advice is late

set up communications, do not ignore her during such phases as it may only serve to promote even more unsettling results and futures, try and understand her point of view, let her win from time to time and teach her stuff, share memories and bonding times if possible.

i repeat, DO NOT IGNORE THIS

getting angry or frustrated with her in such a state might come to you often as the best of reactions, but try and control it, which might just serve as the proper indicator for the message that if everyone else is currently chill enough to deal with stuff around them, she should at least be trying too

this post might sound somewhat gibber-ry by the time its read by someone else but my brain is currently to oatmealy to deal with proper typing and deeper details

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Then being called gay by your friend.

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Ok then.

Finally had appointment with neurologist.

He confirmed that I apparently DO have migraines often. Particularly in noisy* or crowded* areas. Here I was thinking that was all just due to paranoia.

I have been prescribed anti-migraine medication to ease the pain/discomfort. I think I may have had these on and off migraines for so long that I didn't know it were out of the ordinary.

The absence seizures have not been confirmed yet.

Anywho, I am going to receive or go through (whatever the right term is) an MRI and a few other tests within the next 4 weeks that will do such and a lot of other things that I don't entirely understand but can easily read up about.

Progress is happening folks.

*As defined by me.

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@Tuor: To me it seems like she's trying to shut people out. Keep a close eye on her, since she has a history of self harming.

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Hmm, ya, problem is just I'm not sure how to prevent her from doing that, without her realizing that's what I'm doing, and then just shutting people out more

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I don't know if this is the right thread for this but my gf is self harming. I don't know what to do, halp? Where do i take her or what...?

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ah to be explicit, she self harms by "unconciously"scraping those little strands of nail between the nail and skin of the finger...? sorry idk how they're called in english. Both of her hands are very damaged at the fingertips, she does this all the time because as she scrapes one strand, she creates another, and she digs and digs until blood comes out and eaargh. XC

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Most likely a nervous tick.

Talk her into visiting a psychologist.

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Maybe just talk to her and see what she's nervous or stressed about, because it does seem like something she'd just do without necessarily realizing. Although you did say "unconsciously", what makes you think it's not?

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Because she used to do it when i first met her, but it would only happen when she got real nervous about something, now she does it everyday even though she has no problems. I already talked to her and she insists on saying "i don't realize i do it".

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It honestly sounds more subconscious. It's almost like an extension of nail biting, so it wouldn't surprise me that when she doesn't have her mind occupied that she does it on top of when she is nervous.

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Maybe, but it seems like it's something she has started doing all the time and she didn't used to.

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I'm not sure when it was that she stopped doing it rarely to do it all the time.

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Yeah, I bite my nails all the time. That sounds kinda like it. Typically when I'm bored or nervous I suppose. Should probably do something about it.

I'd say either talk to a professional, or I suppose there might be online guides for nervous ticks like that. Not sure. If she keeps doing it til she bleeds it's definitely something to do something about. No reason she'd start doing it again, huh?

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Weeeelll... lets umm see here...
It has been quite a while since i have been here.

I realize i cannot talk about what i feel, or at least i have a much harder time with people i know and see on daily basis, like its easier to talk about things with strangers.

I am depressed... not like "aw bitch i am soooooo depressed boo hoo the life of a teenager/20something guy is so hard oh my goooosh"
Im talking about feeling anxious, empty, hopeless, worried, worthless, irritable, hurt, restless!
I m not eating as well as i should and i am sleeping too much or there are days where i don't sleep for an entire 2 days but i don't make up for it because the amount of sleep i get after that is excessive. Self destructive thoughts have returned and even some habits... i dont cut myself mind you or related but its more like living with little regard for my safety... Acting reckless i guess, Today was the first time in my life i get kicked out of the workshop and i have worked with heavy duty materials and power tools as long as i can remember... No i was not careless, accidents happen at random this was a premeditated reckless act but this isn't about that...

I don't even know how or when it started. i don't think anything major life changing has happened as of late it just sorta grew up and started dragging me down piece by piece.

Not even sure why i am posting here? is it to simply read reassurance of empty words. Devoid of any actual interest? "you are gonna be fine, you'll get over it eventually" am i really that shallow?

I guess i had though that i would figure out what as wrong once i finished writing the first few sentences without having to come to this... if something i guess it was the opposite and ended up realizing i don't know why i am this way.

Jealousy related to my Ex? Well there has always been something there but i usually don't let it consume me, i work to move on you know...
But writing that i think it made me realize a little bit. Not entirely sure but i guess its just plain old bottling up. every single tiny little thing just brushed aside but unconsciously filling up something inside of me. That is probably one of the main issues...

The real problem is that i think i am alone. I have always thought that the less i associated with people the less i'd be hurt, i keep a level of interaction with some people, i have really grown to like them.

I talk to them, go out with them, laugh with them. But for some reason i have this impending feeling that i am alone... for some reason i feel like i am being held back and possibly by myself.

Truthfully i am not really sure what i came here for, i dont know what i want to listen or what to expect or how you would react... my reckless behavior, im just not thinking straight... i gotta get my shit together. I think i am just lost. I feel no purpose, i dont know what to expect or what to do. I dont even think i know exactly what i want.

As i said, i am completely lost within myself. not even sure why here?

well then i guess thats just it, not sure what to expect. and as i press the submit button i leave with a great loud and deep sigh.

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Oh look an uninteresting wall of text that will probabaly tire most of you half wat trough...

TL;DR: i think i dont know myself and it makes me sad.

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Sometimes just being able to write your thoughts down can help

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