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Sun Dec 02, 2012 7:37 pm
Louis wrote:Oh jolly, Oh joy, Oh happy day, my girlfriend left me AGAIN for the second time, the most wonderfully splendiferous part of my nutricious breakfast is, she diidnt leave me because of the fact i told her she needed to get help, or because i went to her parents, she left because her ex boyfriend who has repeatedly made her miserable, came back, and that girl left me for him yet again, and i would say it hurts, but i saw it coming, and right now i am not sad, just very very pissed off
Sarah has done that several times.
So fuck her. Leave her behind. She's a crazy bitch. At one point, dude, you have to realize: caring for others is a good thing. But when it gets to the point that it's hurting you, than you cut off all ties.
Sun Dec 02, 2012 7:51 pm
If somebody's lack of emotional stability is affecting yours and they are unwilling to fix it, then cut your losses.
Sun Dec 02, 2012 9:47 pm
FUCK THAT BITCH
Louis, I do not believe I've said one word to on here before so I felt those should be my first. If she's leaving you for another guy regardless of her mental stability fuck her. When she comes back to you it will basically be her having her cake and eating it too. I see people use disabilities as a crutch too much and a relationship should not be one of them.
Take it from a guy whose ex tried to run him over three times in one night.
Sun Dec 02, 2012 9:57 pm
It's painful, but you gotta cut your losses.
The one person that matters the most right now, to you, IS you.
Don't continue hurting yourself like this.
Mon Dec 03, 2012 4:20 am
He doesn't need to hate her. She's clearly mentally unstable and really you can't even consider her as responsible for her actions to a certain extent at this point.
He still needs to cut her loose, that needs to be done, but I don't agree with hating her for it as she's clearly not right in the head at the moment. If she ever gets better, I'm sure she will deeply regret how she treated Louis.
Just don't let her drag you down with you Louis. You're trying to bring her up, not go down to the emotional muck with her. You tried. But the sad fact of life is sometimes you can't save everyone and you have to leave it to chance. You just have to have hope now that she'll get better. Maybe you finally cutting her off will be the wake up call she needs. She'll finally be forced to be without her crutch, and maybe she'll get better that way.
Mon Dec 03, 2012 7:55 pm
I can't believe I swore never to post in here.
Okay so, a few of you won't be surprised in the least, but I'm having issues with a girl.
I'm going to skip the hokey 'this is why i like her' bullshit and get right down to it. I like her a lot but she is confused about feelings and relationships and such.
To be more specific, there is a sixteen year-old shithead drop-out drug addict in the picture (i know) and apparently he's super cool and more interesting and tempting than I am. (yayyyyy)
She's explained to me that there really isn't anything between them, but she won't explain to me why there's slight feelings (and I don't expect her to).
We recently had a talk about how I think all of this is bullshit and how much I like her and how I'm just going to back off and just be friends with her, but it bugs the hell out of me.
So how should I move from here? Stay the course or actually pursue her?
Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:26 pm
Actually pursue her, don't let some punk face 16 year old jackass steal your girl
Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:38 pm
Dude, if she can't make a decision between you and some 16 year old druggie that doesn't sound good.
Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:45 pm
Whatis6times9 wrote:Dude, if she can't make a decision between you and some 16 year old druggie that doesn't sound good.
Ding ding ding!
Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:59 pm
Girls have that stupid innate temptation towards guys they think they can fix or tame or whatever. Whatis already said it. If she thinks some drug addict is competition she probably isn't worth your time.
Mon Dec 03, 2012 10:23 pm
That's a bit unnerving, considering I was a form of "16 year old druggie" who wasn't necessarily 16. I wonder if my relationship died because I got better.
Anyway. Warbear. She's not worth it. If she wants some dude who has a shitload of problems, instead of you, than she doesn't know what she's got. Granted, her "feelings" for this other guy could be more motherly than anything. And this guy might be seriously fucked up.
But. You aren't. That's why you should leave it behind you and pursue someone who's knows when they got lucky. Don't worry, Warby. The world is huge, and there are way more girls worth your time. The only ones that are ever worth dating are almost always able to reciprocate that time to you, too.
What I'm trying to say, in a rambling manner, is to just leave this girl in the dust. Find someone who's good enough for you, man.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:10 am
Santa Yogs wrote:Anyway. Warbear. She's not worth it. If she wants some dude who has a shitload of problems, instead of you.
Well I do have a lot of i- Oh you're talking about him.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:12 am
More seriously though, I can't say that I'm much more desirable. I mean, I'm a high school drop-out as well. The only difference is is that I have tons of work experience, an apartment, and massive anxiety issues (which I'm going to therapy for on Wednesday.) I've also concurred that I have a drinking problem, but I'm working on that.
I'm not saying that I'm less desirable than a teenage drug-addict, but I am saying that I can see why she'd pick him over me.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:19 am
You took my comment as an insult, shit.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:21 am
You are who you are. If there are things that you dislike about yourself, than fix them. But compare one person's flaws to another will not work, as it simply invalidates one or the other. Suffering is equal in the way that it is sufferig all the same.
Sounds like you're about to go through the same shit I did.
You know the mistakes I made, so don't repeat them. Oh, and I'm always free to talk through PMs. You know I have experience with these sorts of things.
I don't know to what degree you have a drinking problem, but talk to a doc about some withdrawal meds. Don't want to get the D.T.s like I did.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:27 am
Meditation is an amazing hobby for relieving anxiety. Do some research on your own about it, as I've posted some information.
Weed helps a lot. Always. Obvious reasons.
Finally, you can't rely on any drug or hobby at all, despite the aforementioned suggestions. They can help, and you can use them as something to help you along, but your true crutch must be your own willpower.
Humankind is capable of great things, but they can only be achieved through sheer force of will, something everyone is capable of.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:29 am
Whatis6times9 wrote:You took my comment as an insult, shit.
Not really. I agree with you completely, honestly. If she's having difficulty choosing between me or some drug-addled kid, she's probably not worth it. It's just kind of a shame because this is the first girl I've met that I actually have stuff in common with. I have played Donkey Kong Country with this girl.
Santa Yogs wrote:Weed helps a lot. Always. Obvious reasons.
It's definitely been helping.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:31 am
Don't make it a crutch, though, dude.
It's simply a tool. That's it.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:39 am
I wish I could transfer my knowledge to you or some shit.
Seriously, you are in for a bumpy ride. But if you get through it, you'll be a better man.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:41 am
A hivemind would be pretty useful.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:45 am
But I gotta tell you.
Once you conquer these issues, there will be a clarity to life like no other.
Seriously, you will be utter peace. It's quite the prize.
Like I said though. Anytime you want to talk, I'm always open.
The worst part when it comes to this process, is going through it alone.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:46 am
You should get Skype or something.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:48 am
I'm still trying to find a way to open communications with you guys more face to face.
That's what I'm hoping to do with the traveling thing.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 2:10 am
Skype would be the easiest way.
Tue Dec 04, 2012 8:07 am
It's an OCD thing of mine.
If I told you the reasons behind it, I swear, EVERY SINGLE PERSON on this forum would laugh.
This is not a negativity thing. I know for a fact something like that would happen.
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