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EagleMan wrote:depression makes you stay inside, staying inside makes you depressed, which makes you stay inside more, and so on and so forth.
Millo wrote:I just.. I don't know you guys. I felt that i was being really mature about this. She wants to move to San Francisco and i understood that and i came to the conclusion that i shouldn't be depressed about it and just enjoy the time i had with her left. And now i said something stupid, i asked what we were. I thought maybe we'd at least be together sorta at least till she left but she expressed very clearly that she doesn't want a relationship which i understand she has work and there's some distance between us and it just wouldn't be viable right now. And now we cant even make out which is the worst part! Shit how can i enjoy the time i have left if we cant even make out and hold hands? I don't even really have any other friends. Sure there are people i talk to and get along with in a lot of my other classes but no one that i walk around campus with and joke around. I know that the last thign i should worry about is getting a girlfriend , i know that i should probably start with making some real friends but everyone sucks so hard.
EagleMan wrote:Millo wrote:
Did she specifically the only reasons she doesn't want a relationship is because of work, and whatever the "distance" is? What if she just doesn't want a relationship with you? I know it sounds harsh, but if you build up these rationalizations you're only setting yourself up for false hope, like oh if she quits work then we can be together, or if I just keep pushing to be closer then we can be together. All you might end up doing is pushing her away permanently, which is obviously not the goal here.
EagleMan wrote:you say you just want to have fun. Are you going to try to work that angle? You two could still have casual sex/physical contact and such without being emotionally involved.