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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Rival » Fri May 31, 2013 6:54 am

Mr. Sefrol wrote:I'm not that much of a dick though T-T I'm too nice of a guy...

There's a difference between being nice and not reacting when someone mistreats you. Telling other people off when they treat you badly is not being a dick, it's having enough self-respect to know you are worthy of a better treatment.

You kept mentioning you wonder why she doesn't notice how much she hurts you. Well maybe because you consider yourself too nice to let her know when she's being a bitch towards you. Either ignore her (would be best, but some people need to let it all out before they can truly end it), or tell her off, but don't be a doormat, don't politely respond to her if you feel hurt, that's the worst course of action for your own well being.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mr. Sefrol » Fri May 31, 2013 8:26 am

I thought saying "I collapsed at work after you told me that news" was sort of getting the point across. Maybe I do sound like a doormat through text... Haven't seen her since she before she texted me her news last Wednesday.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Rival » Fri May 31, 2013 9:19 am

It depends on how you uttered those words, if you tried to remain too dignified and in control of yourself, she may not have taken you seriously, or she simply didn't care. Either way, you are being way too polite to her.
Mr. Sefrol wrote:Haven't seen her since she before she texted me her news last Wednesday.

That's a start. But actually ignoring her, would be deleting her text messages without reading them. If you keep reading them, then she'll continue to have an influence on your emotional state, so the result remains the same as if you were meeting her in person.

If what you say is true, and she'll likely have no boyfriend in a few weeks, then that'll be the real test, on whether you can avoid seeing her.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Panty Anarchy » Fri May 31, 2013 11:46 am

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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Fri May 31, 2013 12:11 pm

Hey guys.

Um.

I'm sorry I've been gone. I kinda.

I just. I got some news. A week ago, my mom died.


I thought I wouldn't care, but I ended up drinking again.

Everything sucks.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Exodis » Fri May 31, 2013 1:53 pm

Damn Yog, I'm so sorry for your loss...
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Tragedy_and_Comedy » Fri May 31, 2013 2:29 pm

@Yog I'm sorry for your loss.

@Sef It'll be hard. but you have to keep reminding yourself that you have to do what's best for you
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Rival » Fri May 31, 2013 2:35 pm

Yog wrote:I just. I got some news. A week ago, my mom died.

I am sorry for your loss.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Fri May 31, 2013 2:51 pm

I never even said that I loved her.

I mean, she's my mom

but i barely ever said that to her

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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Tuor » Fri May 31, 2013 3:04 pm

I'd been wondering where you went.

Condolences, Yog.

Don't beat yourself up too much, bud.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby True Order » Fri May 31, 2013 4:25 pm

Sorry for your loss, Yog. I can't imagine losing a parent.... sounds like a crappy experience indeed. Sorry.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby EagleMan » Fri May 31, 2013 4:29 pm

Yog wrote:I never even said that I loved her.

I mean, she's my mom

but i barely ever said that to her

fuck

Words don't matter. If you loved her, and she loved you, no one needs to spell it out like a legal contract for it to have been made officially true.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mr. Sefrol » Fri May 31, 2013 4:32 pm

OH MY GOD, TRAG, WE MISSED YOU!!!

I'm terribly sorry for your loss, Yog. It's never easy to lose a family member, let alone your mother. I do hope you can overcome this. I had a super good friend go through the same feelings you are, saying he didn't say he loved her, thinking he didn't feel anything at her death. It's what made him the semi-recluse super reserved guy he is now. But when he was always down I always talked about how you Yog reminded me of him. You two were eerily similar in a lot of emotional way, his being not so extreme though... I'd say how you could overcome all these hurdles and tried to help him go through all his issues. I pray you can do it once more soon. You don't have to rush. Take your time. We'll be here for you.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mr. Sefrol » Fri May 31, 2013 5:12 pm

Another old girlfriend who I was in a relationship before my current new ex sort of just replied to something of mine on a different site in just one of the worst ways possible. Then we all get into a skype call with another friend... Didn't have the courage to bring up the hurt though, even while she was acting a bit more jerky than normal (I think it's from this other pain in the ass friend she has that she insists is nice "sometimes" to justify still being friends with him, I don't know...). So things keep going and then she has to go or her skype crashed. Something. Then I spill to my friend who's still there what's been going on. We talk for a while, then I ask him to relay my feelings about that reply that hit a little too close to the heart. Soon enough right after I go back to the site and she's already left a message saying sorry for being rude with that very reply of hers. It made me happy knowing she still cares. Don't think she knew it was being offensive.

Seriously, what is up with me and the ladies lately?
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby YesterdaysLingo » Fri May 31, 2013 5:41 pm

@ Yog;
Terribly sorry for your loss...
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby noxux » Sat Jun 01, 2013 12:57 am

@Yog Sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family.
@Mr.Sef Maybe being polite attracts ex
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Panty Anarchy » Sat Jun 01, 2013 8:11 am

Yeah, you know, maybe being nice makes people want to be around you. Weird.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Tragedy_and_Comedy » Sat Jun 01, 2013 8:17 am

I know right? weird
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Hiryu » Sat Jun 01, 2013 8:18 am

Or take advantage of your niceness.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Tragedy_and_Comedy » Sat Jun 01, 2013 10:00 am

That too.
Though there is the opposite direction where people pretend to be your friend to get in your pants. But that doesn't seem to apply to this situation
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby noxux » Sat Jun 01, 2013 7:47 pm

Maybe those girls think like "This guy was very nice but now I'm with a douch. You know what, I want him back".
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Tuor » Sat Jun 01, 2013 7:48 pm

That's exactly what they think
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby noxux » Sat Jun 01, 2013 7:54 pm

Poor Mr.Sefrol he will get alot of this messages of old ex's in the future.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby EagleMan » Sat Jun 01, 2013 7:57 pm

I wouldn't really say poor him in that instance then. At least he'll be the one in the position of power then and able to dictate how things go from there, making closure easier for him.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Whatis6times9 » Sat Jun 01, 2013 8:00 pm

Pabst new goal here, be a good person not a nice one. Good and nice aren't synonyms and shouldn't be treated as such. Being good doesn't involve making yourself miserable for the benefit of someone who doesn't care about your feelings.
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