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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Sat Aug 18, 2012 12:28 am

Sorry about that.

I'm just so pissed off.

Its like trying to demolish a concrete wall with your forehead.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Sat Aug 18, 2012 12:35 am

But seriously, Pabst.

If these girls exist, then fuck you for getting their hopes up for so long.

You're going to hurt them badly.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mr. Sefrol » Sat Aug 18, 2012 12:43 am

I'm a douche, yeah... I should have broken it off with those other two girls a month ago...

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So yeah... I'm going to be crushing a couple girls' hearts soon. Any really good advice to minimize that?
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Izanagi » Sat Aug 18, 2012 12:43 am

Honesty.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Sat Aug 18, 2012 12:44 am

Good bye, Pabst.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby EagleMan » Sat Aug 18, 2012 1:25 am

You're going to hurt them regardless.

The fact you've waited so long actually just makes it even worse if they find out. People will delay the right thing for good reasons, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea.

The sooner the better. Accept there will be hurt. Break it off anyways. There's no getting around it. The sooner you stop wasting their time, the sooner they can move on and find someone else. Every day you keep them on the hook is a day they might've skipped a good option. You literally have taken away a month from them being able to find the love of their life or something.

Also don't be friends with them. You're not the one that needs to help them get over this. Sticking around them will just make it worse for them. Do it as fast as possible. Don't let them try to change your mind (if they try), because even if you won't budge, by even allowing them to keep doing so will fill them with hope, that maybe if only they make the right concession, do a certain thing, or whatever, they can keep you.

You need to do it and get out of that situation. There is no right way to do such a thing. It's a tightrope game, where you have to be polite while being impolite, where you have to reject a person's entire being while trying not to crush it in the process. I doubt it'll go perfect. That's okay. It won't go perfect anyways (unless they wanted to get rid of you in which case everyone's good).
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mr. Sefrol » Sat Aug 18, 2012 1:40 am

Thank you very much, EM. That advice means a lot.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby EagleMan » Sat Aug 18, 2012 1:42 am

To clarify a bit, by what I meant "If they find out", I meant if they find out you've just been stringing them along this whole time. Breakups hurt, but so does finding out you were wasting your time, and were basically being (emotionally or otherwise) lied to. So if you can avoid them finding out, that'd probably be best for all involved.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Musicmac » Sat Aug 18, 2012 1:51 am

Be honest, be truthful, be genuinely sorry or whatever your feelings are regarding the matter, and be ready for a few hurtful insults and rumors.

Also, don't lie.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby True Order » Sat Aug 18, 2012 2:06 am

Good luck with the conflict PBT, lord knows it won't be easy. But it will be easier when it's over.
Hopefully.

I vote EagleMan for best Advice giver, he gives it to ya straight, without being a dick or trying to be offensive. Or at least I interpret it as such.

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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Sat Aug 18, 2012 3:37 am

Sorry I didn't sugarcoat, my little Orderkins.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby EagleMan » Sat Aug 18, 2012 3:46 am

You didn't sugercoat anything because you had no advice to sugercoat. If anything it would make a person take even longer because they would figure I've already procrastinated this much, and now it'll feel much more worse to actually do it because I was shamed, so I might as well delay it as long as I can. So he shouldn't have waited. That information does not help him at all and only would make a person want to do it less.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Tuor » Sat Aug 18, 2012 3:53 am

This isn't really about calling anyone's troubles bullshit, Yog. There were people who thought your position was bullshit too
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Musicmac » Sat Aug 18, 2012 7:22 am

It's difficult to be empathetic on a communication platform where troubles are posted up as often as cat pictures are.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Sat Aug 18, 2012 9:19 am

Tuor wrote:This isn't really about calling anyone's troubles bullshit, Yog. There were people who thought your position was bullshit too

Yeah. Sorry about all of that.

Order, I'm sorry for being shit to you. I should have tried more for the purpose of helping.

It's just... the way you think now is SO much like how I used to think back in recluse mode. Looking at your post I get so angry because there are things destructive about that way of thinking. You need some humility, dude. If you already believe you're at the top, there's no other place to go, you know? And everyone is the same, in that we all bleed red and we all die. Don't do that thing where you try to split off the rest of humanity.

Because you're just going to find out that it's lonely by yourself. Like I did.

Anyway, again, I'm sorry, and I hope you read through this post. Sorry if it's a bit mean or something, just try and read it for the good bits, please.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Kkeellaacc » Sat Aug 18, 2012 11:26 am

DaCrum wrote:Yog, can you tune down the douchebaggery? Just a teensy bit.


And no. I'm not standing up to you, Pwned. You're fucking pitiful. Don't think otherwise.


You're not standing up for him.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby DaCrum » Sat Aug 18, 2012 1:01 pm

Herp derp. I was uhm... "tired" last night.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby True Order » Sat Aug 18, 2012 2:38 pm

@Yog:
Apology appreciated.

Though you should know that when I typed that I was in a rather depressed yet angry mindset. Typically I attempt to go for the happy medium between no self-esteem and egomaniac. If you're the former everyone thinks you're pathetic and if you're the latter everyone thinks you're a dick.

Logic suggests that it's impossible to win either way.

But its whatevs. I have been advised to just be myself and I should, in theory, attract people with similar interests.

The tough part of that is finding a social scenario where I am most likely to meet people similiar to me. Went to a Super Smash Bros. Brawl tournament at one point, lost in the semi-semi-final round, but that was fine my goal was to meet people not to win. Unfortunately all the peeps were just hardcore brawlers. I'm not a fan of unfriendly competition I'm more of a recreational gamer myself.

I had more fun afterwards in the elevator explaining why this two story building had an elevator that claimed to have four floors and helping people go to the floor they intended to go to andpily helping beginners learn how to use the "intuitive" control system in Wii sports, mainly bowling because the tutorial for that tends to confuse more people than help them.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby DaCrum » Sat Aug 18, 2012 3:51 pm

Okay, yeah, it's hypocritical of me for saying it in a way, but I gotta agree with whoever the fuck said it. Stop using pissy days as an excuse for being an unfunny fuck. Fuck.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mir@k » Sat Aug 18, 2012 3:59 pm

Are you... >>implying something crummy boi
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby True Order » Sat Aug 18, 2012 4:20 pm

It wasn't a pissy day it was a pissy/depressed moment.

Come on man, I never use excuses for anything and the one time I use one it gets nulled.

Dammit.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mir@k » Sat Aug 18, 2012 4:23 pm

I didn't see crumboi giving names, so you just applied the "if the boot fits" rule. :P
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Yog » Sat Aug 18, 2012 5:51 pm

DaCrum wrote:Okay, yeah, it's hypocritical of me for saying it in a way, but I gotta agree with whoever the fuck said it. Stop using pissy days as an excuse for being an unfunny fuck. Fuck.

I said that.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby True Order » Sat Aug 18, 2012 6:05 pm

@Mirak:
I more assumed it because he said it directly after my post. The "chronological appearance" rule. Or something like that.

Now you best mind your Ps and Qs, particularly these kinds. : P

Nothing makes me feel like declaring war on smilies more than : P.
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Re: Snafu Therapy Thread.

Postby Mir@k » Sat Aug 18, 2012 7:29 pm

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