This forum can be a scary place, 'cause we got lax rules: let's see your war face. Take a breath, and roll the dice, you might find out we're really nice.
Tue Apr 16, 2013 9:42 pm
i draw a very distinct line between internet people and real people and sometimes i think other people need to do that
Wed Apr 17, 2013 1:20 am
Ah, the stench of human's inability to understand each other or tolerate different mindsets.
Wed Apr 17, 2013 12:09 pm
Not inability. More refusal.
People can understand each other, but most just don't want to.
Wed Apr 17, 2013 1:46 pm
Okay, since everyone seems to be getting involved.
I'm not going to be friends with Liz again. It's done. It's not going to happen. I'm fine being civil, which is what I have been. Even though something came up in a Skype thread (which I read everything, even if I'm not there to see it at the time.) where she said I was being "malicious". I'm assuming she's thinking of when, I was doing what I normally do, and posting pictures of myself on my own blog. But, at this point, I do not give a shit. I'm civil. Please stop trying to push it back onto me, because it's really fucking annoying.
Now, if you have something to say? Message me. Stop bringing it into this thread. Thank you.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 8:36 am
I figure this is the right place to ask this.
So a girl I strongly feel ooey gooey emotions for, is FINALLY single again after what seems like 5 years.
For once I actually feel like I have the balls to ask her out.
HOWEVER, despite knowing that she attends the same community college as me I have no idea when or where her classes are.
The only way to perchance meet her is her place of work which I learned via Facebook.
Since I am highly devoid of what some call common sense and I call social sense I don't know if this is the way to go about it if I intend to not look like a stalker freak of some caliber. Though I'll admit if I ever stalked a chick it would probably be her.
So what should I do?
It's worth mentioning that I intend to do this person to person in order to both boost my morale and to have the asking be more personal. Libra compassion and heart-to-heart communications FTW!
Thu Apr 18, 2013 8:46 am
Where does she work?
Thu Apr 18, 2013 8:46 am
True Order wrote:Though I'll admit if I ever stalked a chick it would probably be her.
Are you sure 'all' you want is relationship advice... and 'nothing' else?
This is a Therapy thread, after all. (I jest of course.)
Thu Apr 18, 2013 9:20 am
She works at Panera Bread. It's like a semi-fancy and semi-fast food restaurant with soups and breads and all that shtuff.
It sounds hipster-ish but I don't know if it is or not.
Her specific occupation is a trainer and I don't know what her hours are but if necessary I will make a habit of popping in to see if she's there and buy something. For appearances of course.
....this is definitely kinda stalker-ish.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 9:50 am
Eh, if you want to start up a sort of conversation with her and befriend her and at least enjoy the food in the restaurant, I don't see harm in going by every now and then. Do you have any other means of communication with her?
Thu Apr 18, 2013 9:52 am
More important question; is she aware of your existence? We don't want a Denko situation on our hands here.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:14 am
Panera Bread is a pretty nice little cafe, most of the time.
Yeah, I agree with Warby. Go ahead and try to build up a relationship there. Just DON'T TRY TOO HARD.
Be casual, be kind, and above all, be confident. Don't stammer or avoid her eyes or anything like that. Keep good eye contact, I find that if you don't seem creepy to a girl, looking her in the eye works well.
Of course, like I said, don't be obsessive. Good luck.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:15 am
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:16 am
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:21 am
WarBear wrote:More important question; is she aware of your existence? We don't want a Denko situation on our hands here.
Denko? *Looks up Denko*
She is very much aware of my existence we were decent friends as kids and occasionally hung out during high school, she was the whole reason I started doing Theatre stuff. I just never had the balls to ask her out despite moments that some could describe as starry eyed. During High school she did little things here and there that clearly suggested she wanted to hang out with me more, like suggest I join her in this Fife and drum chore thing and... other little things kinda.
I was a forgetful cowardly fuck-up so I did not do 90% of these things and of course I regret this.
But that was then and this is NOW. Now I posses the ever helpful anti-migraine meds and, my muse, Mystery whom has helped awaken parts of me that had been dormant for quite some time.
Warbear wrote:Do you have any other means of communication with her?
Not really, facebook probably doesn't count, though I could get her phone number from a friend.....
OR I could have Andrew ask her to simply hang out and just chat like he did last year, except this time he should FOOPIN invite me. She even asked why I wasn't there and he apologized to me later....
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:24 am
Definitely don't get her phone number from a friend. That'd just look cowardly and that's something you're trying to stay away from at this point. Do everything for yourself in this situation. Facebook counts as a method of communication, so just try talking to her there from time to time and shit'll work out.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:30 am
Christ, you're actually already in a good spot, True.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:35 am
So how exactly does one go about properly conversing with another on Facebook?
I don't mean it literally like "What button do I push" I mean it like "WHAT DO I SAY?!"
Guhhhhh..... facebook feels cowardly too... though she is very active on there.
You really think so?
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:38 am
To communicate with her, don't go straight out and say HEY.
You have to have a reason to make contact.
And then let that reason lead up to casual conversation. Do that a couple times, and you can go HEY later.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:55 am
Reason? Well I certainly lack one of those.
I guess I'll go with the Panera Bread plan.....
I fear that I will turn around and see she has another boyfriend already. She is not the kind of girl who likes to remain single for too long.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 10:59 am
I'm bad with relationship stuff, but I just need to laugh over Panera being called fancy.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 11:07 am
I've never been there. The name just made it sound fancy...
I don't know things....
Thu Apr 18, 2013 12:13 pm
Does just striking up random conversations on fb chat not occur to you?
Thu Apr 18, 2013 12:36 pm
Just be like "Hey" and then she'll be like "Hey" and then you'll be like "What's up?" and then conversation.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 12:47 pm
are some pointers on how NOT to chat to a girl you like on facebook.
Also, if you don't want to be obvious straight out you can ask her to hang out because you miss hanging out with her. Unless you want to state that you're interested in her right away, which may also be a way to do it.
Thu Apr 18, 2013 2:37 pm
Random conversations do not happen to me on Facebook. The few I've had for mundane things or for updating family members on the health of other family members.
Also that is good advice Q.U.
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