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Fri Feb 22, 2013 9:54 pm

Welcome back!

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Fri Feb 22, 2013 10:03 pm

Welcome back, Lily.

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Fri Feb 22, 2013 11:38 pm

Welcome.
And hey, you know we like having you around, eh?

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 4:38 am

Riz wrote:I've officially been diagnosed with body dysmorphic disorder...

So now that you officially have a mental disorder are we legally permitted to call you "mental"?

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 4:54 am

go nuts

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 5:35 am

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 6:40 am

Okay.

Now I must go.

Up, up, and awayyyyy...


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Sat Feb 23, 2013 11:33 am

Blood Lord wrote:Especially that new little guy.

I LOVE ALL MY BABIES!

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 11:35 am

Princess Stuff wrote:
Blood Lord wrote:Especially that new little guy.

I LOVE ALL MY BABIES!

BUT ALL I EVER SEE ON FACEBOOK IS THAT LITTLE GUY AND ALL I WANT TO DO IS SNUGGLE WITH HIM!

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 11:40 am

Blood Lord wrote:
Princess Stuff wrote:
Blood Lord wrote:Especially that new little guy.

I LOVE ALL MY BABIES!

BUT ALL I EVER SEE ON FACEBOOK IS THAT LITTLE GUY AND ALL I WANT TO DO IS SNUGGLE WITH HIM!

LOOK AT THAT FACE, THOUGH! HOW CAN YOU NOT WANNA TAKE PICTURES AND LOVE HIM!

Puppies and kittens cure depression. It's a fact.



Oh, by the way, just a little update. My Dad seems to be kissing my ass, especially now that I have a job. Can't tell if he's expecting rent, or doesn't want me to move out.

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 11:44 am

Possibly both.
LOOK AT THAT FACE, THOUGH! HOW CAN YOU NOT WANNA TAKE PICTURES AND LOVE HIM!

I KNOW!

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Sat Feb 23, 2013 2:39 pm

It is a cute puppeh. I like seeing him on fb.

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 10:21 am

Lily's diagnosis fits.

Hope you can overcome it. Despite the problems we've had, I don't wish ill harm on you.

And I apologize for my previous statements. Now that I know the truth, I sincerely regret saying you were trying to garner sympathy. I hope I can be moral support for you one day.

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 2:03 pm

WOOOOOOO IGNORING EVERYONE ELSE'S PROBLEMS BECAUSE I'M A SELF-INVOLVED PRICK WOOOOO

Okay SO the people who follow me on Tumblr may be slightly caught up on this but I'm going to vent my thoughts and feelings here because I don't really have many people who actually care enough to put up with me when I'm like this, so.

I have, as of late, been caught up with feelings for my ex (not the recent one, but the one that's caused problems for me in every relationship i've been in since i was with her). These feelings have been around for about two and a half years and they've died down quite a bit, but I can the occasional... waves of longing, I guess? Lately I've been talking to her about her current relationship and giving her advice (good solid advice, not awful advice that will lead to a break-up, i'm not an awful person). These conversations tend to lead to us talking about what she does for him and how dedicated she is to the relationship and, while i am incredibly happy for her, i am depressed and upset for me? out of all of the people i know, she most deserves to be happy, and i'm glad she is, but it just kind of upsets me that i can't be the one to make her happy, i s'pose. i dunno. i have a lot of conflicted thoughts and feelings going on in my head and i can't really make heads or tails out of any of it.

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 2:05 pm

And I've gotten the advice to 'just get over her' hundreds of times from dozens of people and that's honestly easier said than done and at this point i wouldn't really know how to go about it. *shrug*

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 2:36 pm

I would say to put some space between the two of you. From what I've seen, you've never really had the time TO "get over" her. I've seen you two talk on Facebook, and such, so you've really never have had the time to heal. I know you don't want to stop talking to her, but I suggest you do that for a short time, find some peace, then pick up the friendship again.

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 2:39 pm

We actually went a year without talking and have only started talking again for the last few months, but I've been getting the feeling that I should just maybe cut her out of my life.

At the same time though, I feel like I wouldn't be able to do that without feeling incredibly guilty. She doesn't have many people that she can actually talk to and I'm kind of one of the only people she can vent to.

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 2:43 pm

Hm, well, to be honest, you need to do what's best for you. You're the one who is going to be completely miserable. I'm sure she'd be able to find other people to talk to if something happens in her life.

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Mon Feb 25, 2013 5:27 pm

Ya, I've been in this spot, and I highly recommend severing ties with her. That's the only thing that made it possible for me to move on from the ex I was having this issue with.

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Tue Feb 26, 2013 8:25 am

I'm still sort of going through this myself with my current... I still really don't know what to call her right now. An ex with benefits, my girlfriend, some third thing. And I got the same advice as you have, WB. But I've been putting off having a major talk since I don't want to just cut her off without saying something, but I don't want to chance hurting her feelings because she does stupid shit when she's down. So pretty much in the same boat as you are.

Also, going back to Stuff's dad being somewhat of an ass kisser. What you've brought up before about him, he seems like the person who wouldn't ease into things like asking for rent if you could pay for it. He'd be straight up or you'd hear your mother ask about it instead. Like you mentioned, he could be afraid you'll become independent and move out since you're his little girl and all. but this is just a guess. Don't know your pops too well from one or two mentionings.

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Tue Feb 26, 2013 2:04 pm

Mr. Sefrol wrote: I don't want to chance hurting her feelings because she does stupid shit when she's down. So pretty much in the same boat as you are.

Sucks when someone holds themselves emotionally hostage

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Tue Feb 26, 2013 6:02 pm

Warbear wrote:We actually went a year without talking and have only started talking again for the last few months, but I've been getting the feeling that I should just maybe cut her out of my life.

At the same time though, I feel like I wouldn't be able to do that without feeling incredibly guilty. She doesn't have many people that she can actually talk to and I'm kind of one of the only people she can vent to.


I've dealt with something similar to this, though not nearly to that degree. We talked but we never really 'talked'. Was more like a long series of small-talk in an elevator. Not going anywhere but feeling guilty if I tried to leave.

Stuff is right here though, it'll be tough but you gotta split. You're gonna become even more emotionally wrecked if you keep letting you and her be shackled to each other. Maybe she wants out but doesn't know how to do it. Lots of people don't because it will hurt the other.
It's... Well, it's wrong.

I can understand a week of not talking to someone, at most a month, but a whole year? I'd have forgotten her existence at that point.

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Sat Mar 09, 2013 6:20 am

Well folks. All I can say is I appreciate your existences.

Despite the sadness of personal conflict and etc, this thread is just OOZING with good vibes and feels from the responses to said problems.

Reminds me of being in a hot tub. Its so veeeeery relaxing and comforting to see examples of people caring or at the very least see them convincingly act like they care.

I may not respond or relate to most of the problems voiced on here but I feel for you. With a mindset similar to a child seeing their pet caterpillar grow into a butterfly. It oozes of both progress and beauty.

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Sat Mar 09, 2013 9:37 am

Could you use a better word than oozing? It is an unpleasant word

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Sat Mar 09, 2013 10:38 am

that boo makes me so happy.
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