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Tuor wrote:You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped, unfortunately.
Tuor wrote:I don't think I'm normally a very negative person compared to the vast majority of people on here, so your statement confuses. Anyhow, I have found it to extraordinarily true. If someone doesn't want to be helped you just wind up expending a lot of energy on your part and not getting very far
Whatis6times9 wrote:Yeah, no, I've been through a similar situation with a friend. All that him trying to help his friend is going to do is just further damage the friendship, because his friend is unwilling to change the situation. If his friend was willing to change the situation go all in, but as long as his friend is okay with this nothing is going to change and trying to persuade him to change it is just going to drive a wedge between them.
Wulfespinndel wrote:Tuor wrote:I don't think I'm normally a very negative person compared to the vast majority of people on here, so your statement confuses. Anyhow, I have found it to extraordinarily true. If someone doesn't want to be helped you just wind up expending a lot of energy on your part and not getting very far
If I was in SpiderTiki's position, I would never give up on my friends. And yes, maybe you do expend a lot of energy and not get far, but at least you've made a difference for that person, no matter how big or small. Compared to virtual reality, life is no forum; your relationships with friends can become more intimate and meaningful. SpiderTiki has a chance to contribute to this situation and make his friendship stronger than before, and I want to help him achieve that.
Yog wrote:By the way, I take Zoloft.
If you get the level of medication just right, it's goddamn fantastic.
Helps mellow you out, and after you spent some time like that, carefully dropping the medication little by little will help you get some control.
You're going about this all wrong.
You shouldn't be doing this for anyone but yourself.
This is for the times when you look in the mirror and think, "what a pathetic sack of shit".
It's to disapprove that voice through overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
You'll find friends. That'll like you for you.
But one of your biggest problems is recognizing what you have.
Think on it, man.
Yog wrote:Zoloft took me around 2 weeks.
And when I say recognize what you got, I mean, look at your life, man.
Can you REALLY say you have no one? Truly?
Millo wrote:Also wulf any particular reason you edited your post?
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